She does not like farming, or land, or animals or plants, or being outside–not in any weather. I do not like consumerism, cell phones or television. It was an easy choice. While I regret the state of my relationship, and ever unsure if it will come crashing down today, or tomorrow, or what–I love my children so much.
I want to give them the best experience in life that I can–and that means sacrificing my own romantic love. In the end, I got much the same situation that I ran from in my first one. But I stay the course because it’s the right thing to do.
Bill Mollison on family, cited the I-Ching (I don’t know how: what I have read from it seems utterly vague, shapeless and malleable), “The family is society in embryo.”
My second relationship, which produced my third child, is sick and weird, I’m sorry to say
I am a product of divorced parents. I worry terribly that my first two children will surely follow my example, which I have identified for them as normal with my actions. I am trying not to let this be true for my baby son as well.
It is not necessary that you SHARE preferences or attributes (though it often helps), but it is absolutely imperative that you each can value and respect the other’s thoughts, choices, and preferences. (BEFORE you jump in the sack.)